Caden is 3 months old now. 3 month old babies should sleep 5-6 hours in a night and maybe still need one feeding a night (especially breastfed babies). Lately Caden has been getting up twice a night and sleeping no more than 3 hours consecutively. Soooo...
It's about this time in his life where the books suggest he should learn how to put himself to sleep. To go to sleep initially on their own and in the middle of the night when they wake up (minus one feeding). A good nighttime routine should be established. Then they say for the first few nights of this you will experience them crying alone in their crib, but you are to go re-tuck them every 5-7 minutes, tell them you love them and it's time for sleeping. Now...in the past when I've seen other Mom's do this routine, it drove me crazy, I didn't like watching it, I just wanted to go pick up the baby and hold them and crying would cease. I STILL want to do this with my baby, but I know in the end it doesn't help him. It's a little easier to go through because this is my baby and I know he is fed, dry and not teething (in no pain), he's just emotionally unhappy - I still find it a little difficult. The first night was especially difficult because I gave in after 30 minutes, then had to go through the whole process again after putting him in his crib a second time after trying to rock him to sleep. The first night the whole process lasted 2.5 hours because I gave in the first time...and I cried and prayed to God for help. This is the second night out of 3 that I've let him cry (sometimes less than crying, just unhappy noise - don't know how to explain). It's now been a half hour and I think he's sleeping. (Gonna wait up 5 more mins to be sure).
...he's not sleeping yet...ok...another trip to the crib...
My husband, thankfully, can sleep through crying...yes, that is a good thing, I need him to get a full nights sleep so he can work and provide without being a zombie. I feel no shame napping during the day to compensate for the nights and my husband encourages me to do so...I love him.
There is some light in Caden's room from the kitchen light I leave on, I wonder if he should have a permanent night light. I know I slept with one for years.
I hope this learning curve isn't too steep for either of us and we get through it soon. We've done so well the last 3 months (month 1 was a difficult at times), we have learned a lot from Caden and during the day he rarely cries beyond us figuring out what is bothering him. We have also learned what his different cries mean, we very rarely hear the pain cry...so the cry we hear in his crib is definitely not the pain cry, just the "little unhappy with the situation" cry.
OK, so he's quiet now...if he is actually sleeping, this process was under 1 hour...yay, it's bedtime for Mommy! Sleep well little baby, love you!!